What are marriages today?
This question sets to agitate the current status quo of this sacred ethos. The meaning can be easily and readily grasp by its connotations; that which bond and of itself bound, united, that which suits or fits perfectly, partnered as a working pair.
A working pair, how are they paired? This is the area that has created all the catastrophes that seem chaotic today. There is always an exact matching pair for all energies, an opposite that catalyzes the spark (conducive spark I dare say) abound if we know how to discriminate on the discordant vvibrations.
Art and design define this better, through the color theory and their placement on the wheel and the fitting of things, as usually observed of square pegs in equally suited square holes; the understanding that the opposite attracts is very apt, as opposite colors on the wheel represent complements as an infallible principle. As humans we find it difficult to always see ourselves as energies, rather we concentrate so much on the form we called the physical body and also the tangible environment, without observing that we also are kaleidoscopic color waves cooperating in what we loosely termed existence or life.
The training of self to become conscious and to perceive the energies( as color waves) perennial in our environment is one's ability to read and understand the predominant vibrations that rule a given place, of an individual or events, as we all exudes emanations an admixture to the flux that flows constantly in our daily interactions.
These essential factors have been debased as “instincts” when it should be a natural process just as our breathing. You will question what all these analogies have to do with marriage; because marriages, over the years been enacted solely from the platform of external presentiments, fueled by social ethics, pressures and boredom, ethnic and tribal standings, in most cases of outright selfish purposes to aggrandize oneself, not exempting the act of procreation which is now used as a bait geared towards the bringing forth of offspring as insurance, to anchor such deceptions and falsehood fully.
The externalization of our lives severs the connection of the abilities to adequately read these nuances around us, which fundamentally is the decider of what we call “choice” through the attractions of our desires. The choice is everything, but also irretrievable once activated to proceed to bear the homogenous fruits as a recompense of our decisions. This fruits most times retroactively come back to us as pains, disappointment, incapacitations, regrets, and death; yet countless still stagger as if in a stupor, into the same pit daily, as if the entire society has been hypnotized into a perpetual circle of doom.
This singular act of wrong choices in our marriages stunts the personality, with much that would have been healthy in its development if we had learned how to pair correctly; as correct pairs are the deciding factors that propel everything with warmth, mobility, and sustainability in every design and facets of our lives. Only the true complement stimulates dormant or latent qualities in us to activation. The society is so divided and confused that, ‘this’ common sense constantly eludes us, as most people have not honestly learned to identify their true worth and value, which is hinged on a mutual exchange of complimentary energies.
To come to cognition that we motor on an invisible wavelength of interactive and mobile colors, which we sometimes called our temperaments without forethought to its deeper meaning, seems utopian, but of reality; and that we also possess inbuilt mechanism like radar, to collect and collate information and frequencies through and in this wavelengths.
“Man know thyself”, becomes ever more pertinent as we begin to discover that we are an integral part of the system. This realization will make room for a proper identification and studies of these complementary energies, whose application can only be achieved by first developing a free mindedness devoid of all forms of biases and prejudices that can easily become an impediment to our choices in this process.
These impediments are today the abyss that constantly demands more victims, as everything has been diluted by the over-cultivation of this external senses that dictates and divert this principal energy. This evidences itself in varied forms as aforementioned malaises, either as selfish desires bordering on greed, lust, avarice, societal or peer pressures and wrongly fostered social inclinations. The latter is the worst of these worms, as everything now shifts towards distortions and deceits, of wanting to “belong” and stand out as important in the society.
Parents sought, match make, cajoled and interferes in the lives of their children even to absurdity, destroying their children’s healthy and intuitive decisions as not being approved by their presumptions, of what is good and beneficial to their wards, even on to a ripe age of maturity and self-liberated periods of this children. The results always are frustrations, bitterness, incompatibility, infidelity, divorces and all sorts of acrimony that is an outcrop of this wrongly permutated ideas.
Today this is widely accepted as a rule, albeit the pains and frustrations. Life and its purpose are wasted in such unions, and the human beings never really lived to the fullest nor find fulfillment.
That institution called marriage, has been badly poisoned today by pretenses and deadening of our senses to the fact of the miserableness and futility of such wrong way of life, that without a reversal to the right mode, the society is then irredeemable to slow extinction as the germ of ignorance is transferred as a norm to generations yet unborn. An analogous affiliation does not complement, as similar qualities can be identified in such compositions, for the matching qualities can only be opposites of our colors, not the similarity. The difference in opposites makes for a match, not otherwise.